Popular opinion seems to skew towards the benefits of surrounding yourself with positivity.
Meaning, surround yourself with people who tell you things like this:
- “You can do anything you put your mind to!”
- “You should do whatever you want, who cares what anyone else thinks!”
- “Those people don’t like what you’re saying/doing because they’re haters.”
- “You’re so amazing. There is nothing at all wrong with what you’re doing or the way you’re doing it. You’re just perfect.”
- “Everything happens for a reason. Whatever happens happens. Don’t worry about it. It will happen the way it’s supposed to.”
But that’s akin to surrounding yourself with “yes men.” History has numerous examples to prove this is not a good idea.
You probably agree as well when you’re looking at it from an objective point of view that doesn’t involve you and your ego.
A better idea, and unfortunately not popular opinion, is to surround yourself with honesty. It’s a rare trait in a friend or colleague and, as a result, much more valuable. Most people are afraid to be honest with you. (Maybe even that person who tells you they’re being honest with you.)
When you find someone who isn’t afraid to tell you the truth cherish them. You don’t have to agree with them. You don’t have to act on what they tell you. But listen, cherish, and appreciate them. They’re helping you more than the yes men.