If you’re anything like me when somebody compliments you or something you’ve done your initial reaction is to be self-deprecating. “Aww, thanks, but it’s not that good.” or “Thank you! But I really could have done better with …”
Does that sound familiar?
It’s a tough pattern to break. I do a hit and miss job on it myself.
This morning I got an e-mail from a friend who had just read Luxury of Less. She was very kind and complimentary and I almost responded: “Aww thanks! But I wrote that 3 years ago and don’t feel like I did as good a job as I could have. (though I guess all writers feel like that about their old works)”
How insulting and disrespectful to her.
I took a step back and rewrote it as: “Wow, thank you [name]. I really appreciate that.”
That might not be perfect, but it’s magnitudes better. It acknowledges the thank you without diminishing it.
Self-deprecation can be funny, of course, but it might also be a sign of the loser mentality. Better to use it as little as possible.
I know it’s difficult taking compliments, but next time somebody offers one to you just say “thank you, I appreciate that,” if you have nothing else positive to say. They’ll thank you for it.